“Everything's better when
we do it together” that is a line from a song that is pretty familiar to most
of the avid customers of a fast food chain which one of the most frequent place
to eat by students, especially when they feel like treating themselves for a
job well done or to lift up their spirits after a heartbreaking
experience. Or a simple lunch with their
dear friends. One thing you will notice,
all of this are experienced with a friend, classmate, orgmates, and board
mates. And it’s better if we are
together.
Who are the people
together with you right now? Are they
the classmates whom you are always with within the school grounds?
We would experience many
things in our academics, thesis, family life, love life (ehem) and it is
important that there is someone whom we can share our thoughts, experiences
with. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you
can text someone and celebrate with? Or after a heartbreaking experience like
forgetting the answer to simple question, there’s someone that you can share
that with?
A
friend once told me, God gave you friends so that you can share your life with
them. They may not have all the answers
to your questions, they don’t have the money to pay for your tuition fee, but
they will always have the ears to listen, shoulder to cry on, a face to slap,
just kidding. Real
togetherness includes opening our lives to those we want to do life with. That
includes the normal things we do in life: eat, chat, and play. But it is also
more than just spending time, hanging out, and doing small talks –all of these
do not mean anything if we do not open ourselves to other people and talk about
the things that really matter to us.
Life is not
designed to be lived alone. There are a
lot of things in life that are pressures, challenges that will challenge
us. And the enemies will attack those
who are alone. When you are alone, you
are easy to tempt, discourage. Because
when you are alone, you do not have backups, someone who will protect you and bring you to
a much safer and good place. Pity anyone
who fall and has no one to help him out.
Our
friends are our friends because we consider them as one, and they consider us
as theirs –it’s a two-way street. Real togetherness cannot happen without our
cooperation and deliberate effort to allow people into our lives. And you are defined by the people surrounding
you. Some may say it’s not true. But
once you are always together, there will be, it’s either you influence them, or
they influence you. Whatever it is, I
hope it’s for the better. Pick the right
friends because they are the ones that most influence you, the ones who you can
study with, not to cut class with. If
there’s a possibility, get involved in groups that will empower you.
When I first entered college, I
have no friends. I’d say that even I
transfer to another school, no one would notice. I remember that I used to call my father and
sad stuffs about not having friends and he would say, “That’s nice. In that way no one will influence you to do
bad stuff”. Maybe he’s right. But I kept praying that someday, I will have
friends that has the same interest like me, whom I can share my dreams and
problems with, tell the crazy stuffs that happen to my day, someone who will
encourage me, or just someone to eat lunch with. And yes, I’ve finally found my real friends.
Nobody, not even the most
introverted person, wants to do life on his own. As we fulfill our God-given mission, we will
face challenges, discouragements, and times when we just feel we can’t continue
on. The good thing is we are not to
fulfill our mission on our own. First
and foremost, God is with us. And with the help of others, together, we can
push each other to live out the life God intends us to live and fulfill the
mission He wants to fulfill.
Let’s
journey together.
